Wednesday, January 6, 2010

Wedding, Words and Wonderful Ointment

Bill just emailed me pictures from Cambodia. Our friend is getting married and it is occurring right at this very moment. Jeff is taking pictures with his fancy camera, too. Another friend is officiating. Isn't the bride lovely?

Have you ever heard it said that sarcasm is a form of hate? What do you think? In the last year or so, I've really been on the look out for sincere, kind people. I don't like funny anymore if funny is mean. I find myself drawn to individuals who speak their heart instead of their mind. I honestly wonder if we realize how permanent our words are. I'm trying to be less careless with my utterances. It's hard. When I'm tired, I get lazy about measuring my words. Sometimes with our children, I can blurt out things that don't benefit anybody. I've noticed that at our dinner table, our conversations can get very careless. We make harsh and arrogant statements, as if we can say whatever we want. Can we? Do you ever get a little shiver when words are too quickly spoken? I do. Today at the teacher lunch table someone said, "Quiet people often come off as stand-offish." I have NEVER thought of quiet people as stand-offish. I respect quiet people and I admire them. It's as if they hold a thousand secrets under lock and key. I want to be more like them. I would like to be less of a chatterbox and more like the quiet ones. I don't think it's too late for me.

I close this post with a tribute to my friend Vicks VapoRub. Last night I arrived home after 8:30. It was a long day. I had two meetings after work. By the time I walked in the door, I felt fuzzy-headed and bone tired. I found the pretty blue jar on the shelf by my sink, rubbed it all over my chest and then proceeded to smear if all over my feet. I put on a pair of cotton socks and crawled into bed. All night long I smelled the "get well, Sweetie" smell of this magic elixir. Today, I felt better. Tonight I still feel pretty good.
I am praying for snow and lots of it. I'd like a Snow Day so I can catch up. This week has already gotten away from me. Sigh.
Oh by the way, guess where I've found many of the truly kind people I've been looking for? Yes, I have found you. The bloggers. My heart soars with hope. The blogs I read (all of YOURS) are my favorites because the writers speak the truth with care, share their triumphs humbly, are genuinely interested in others, and often wobble out there to the edge of the high dive and perform amazing leaps that say, "I trust that what I write will be received and savored." It's true. I'm doing a lot of savoring.


Bradley Maston said...

Words are precious, and should be treated as such.

MamaF said...

Hello Pom Pom,

i hope you feel better by now and you i wish you get the snow :)
The wedding pictures are so beautiful :)
I'm with you, i'm not that much into 'fun' in a certain way. Sometimes i think i'm getting boring But i can't get out of my mind Paul's words
'Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things'. And everytime i say or listen something mean i can't help but think that it can't be real fun if it's not noble, right, pure ... Maybe it's just my try to sugarcoat the world around me ? But what if we all try to 'sugarcoat' the world around ? Maybe that would be a sweeter place :) (so-to-say).
As for being quiet i'm doing a lot of work about taming my tongue as well. I used to be very opinionated over everything. Now i'm committed to seek peace and gentleness first, and most of the time the only way is just being quiet and listen. I have to say that it gets esier and easier. My hubby sometimes asks me ' how can you listen - this or that - and keep being quiet ? Don't you ever want to give - this person- a piece of your mind ? :) so i think i'm getting better about my 'toungues habits ' lol
I wish you a peaceful day for today !

SuKnitWitty said...

Food for thought...Lunch Chatter often leads to eating ones own words and indigestion.
Today I will be a 'Woman of Fewer more Thoughtful words'.
#1. Let It Snow 4U!
#2. Beautiful wedding!
#3. VICKS - Mama's winter cure all.
#4. Silence is Golden.
#5. ___________________________!

Kari of Writing Up A Storm said...

Oh, that is just what I thought when I found you: a cozy home, a kind heart, a loving friend! May you get your Snow Day! I know how hard that first week back is, and there is nothing like a snow day to cure whatever! I have an old vanilla extract bottle, full of colored water, with a label I made that says: "The Great-Great Grandmother's Secret Remedy for Everything." But Snow Days and Vick's Vapo will do just as well! xo Kari

scrappy quilter said...

Words are precious, ones we can't take back once spoken. Hugs..

Robin said...

Gotta' love Vicks Vapor Rub. Boy, does that take me back! Beautiful wedding couple!

Jenny Campbell said...

I believe quiet people are the smart ones! I wish I knew how to be quiet and not a blabber mouth :)

Left-Handed Housewife said...

I grew up in a household where there was a lot of teasing and sarcasm. It would start out gently, and then get mean. It was a form of passive aggression, I think, and it was very hurtful. I don't do it with my kids at all. It was such misery!

You are a great comfort to me and all of your readers. I appreciate your warm humor and your kindness. I hope you get your snow day!


Saleslady371 said...

Great inspiration here. Words are to be taken seriously. I'll try the Vicks.

Kerri said...

I used to be a very quiet person, and still can be quite shy with new people. I remember as a teenager being told that I came across as very aloof because I was shy. I was not aloof at all, I just was too shy to speak! Funny how wrong first impressions can be. Although I can be very loud with people I know well, I try to remember that it's ok to feel awkward and uncertain and not very brave too. And by the way we all love you too! Thanks so much for being your fabulous self!

DebD said...

Since I see your comments on some of my favorite blogs I just knew I needed to come check yours out too. :)

I've also come to dislike funny that is mean. It is grating to the soul (and ears).

The wedding photos are lovely.


I totally agree with the sentiment of your post today. Words are so powerful and can hurt or heal ... far better to spread healing words and encourage and inspire than to be mean. There is no joy for anyone in being mean. Everyone should look into their heart and be kind. I try to live by this